You love spanking, it is one of your favorite BDSM procedures. But, as with your favorite foods, if repeated often in the same way, it may start to lose from its attraction. Fortunately, your favorite cake can be made in many different ways...
If you haven't already, you must first read the basic safety information about spanking as well as about the best places to apply it: find this information in our previous articles.
If you don't have your own ideas for the way to diversify spanking at the moment, you will find a guide here to inspire you: try them all, or as many of the ones you'll think fit for you: have a great time!
A simple way to experience new sensations during spanking is to use other implements that can generate different experiences
Simple, free, handy anytime, slapping with an empty palm is basic in spanking: the palms that directly touch the submissive skin give more intimate feelings than other methods. Some Dominators want to feel every slap the submissive receives. Bare-handed spanking generates a stinging pain that then brings relief to many heartache!...
If you haven't experienced spanking with a paddle yet, it is the time to try. It is easy to handle, rigid (thus easier to intuit the place and intensity of the blow), in various manufactures, at prices for everyone. However, using the paddle, the Dominator no longer directly feels the power of the blow, so it is necessary to practice before hand on a pillow and to start gently spanking the submissive, increasing the intensity after heating the application spot- the buttocks, being the most recommended for spanking, - to bring a pain transformed into pleasure and accompanied by a storm of endorphins. All within the pre-communicated limits of the receiving person.
Similar to the paddle, but having strips of material, offers a specific type of spanking with a lot of noise, being more "the dog that barks hard but does not bite"... The strips of material will adhere to each other during spanking, will produce a lot of noise, but with low intensity of pain. It is preferred by those who appreciate the noise of the slap but less the high intensity of the impact.
Is well known among BDSM followers as a tool that produces a very pleasant sensation, similar to that of a massage and worth trying in spanking sessions. A long flogger, made for BDSM dungeons cannot be used on close contact, but you can purchase shorter, smaller floggers, ideal for a spanking session at home. Floggers can wrap around the body of the receiving person, so they can touch other parts of the body than desired, so it takes some study and prior experimentation when you are a newbie.
Can bring a regular spanking session to maximum intensity!
A long, semi-thin cane, with which the body is struck, produces a strong, sharp pain, for which it requires low intensity blowing and use at longer periods of time.
Many of the objects in the house can be used for spanking: a kitchen spatula, even a scrolled newspaper, the clean sole of a shoe, a hairbrush with needles, a wooden spoon with long tail... all can be very good. The leather belt is the more appreciated. However, caution is needed when starting spanking with something new: not being created for this purpose, the risks can be more significant and the intensity may be much higher than originally thought.
Just use those items you won't regret if they break!
Change the material
Suppose you have already changed the type of tool for spanking. The next step could be to change the material from which it is made: the leather is preferred in most types of BDSM sessions, however other materials can be used, which also involving to buy new toys.
The "golden model" of most fetish toys, black leather, genuine or synthetic, is the most used material in the making of many BDSM toys. Genuine leather generates moderate sensations on impact with the skin of the body, being very suitable for spanking. Yet, being flat, untextured, might not be the first choice for skin impact. But it should not be overlooked either its specific smell, aphrodisiac in itself.
Soft and perfect to be used by beginners for heating up when covering a spanking paddle, when it is wanted a less sharp sensation on impact with the skin. Be careful, however, when cleaning and sanitizing it, to protect it from persistent stains.
Softer than leather, gives a genuine leather-like sensation but is more textured. The difference between the two can only be felt, experiencing spanking with both. The paddle covered with suede can also give sharp sensations on impact with the skin of the body, but is less noisy.
Are you ready for stronger sensations? Then wood is what you need. The appearance of a wooden instrument differs depending on the essence of which it is made, but the sensation it gives to the impact with the skin is the same: rough, stinging and strong! It is the tool for the punishment spanking.
Change the location of the spanking meeting
If you always do spanking with your partner laid on the bed, it is time to change that too: other places, other sensations and the excitement will increase too. Changing the position of the body can also change the way the impact feels: what seems easy for a relaxed body can become much more painful when the person is bent and with their hands on their ankles. Change the place, the position, start easier, see what fits best:
On the kitchen table
The kitchen offers various good spanking possibilities: table, counter, chair... especially when used unexpectedly: lean your partner over the kitchen table, on the back or on the abdomen, but by surprise, for a spanking session followed by sex, just before the evening meal... The increased exciting effect will be guaranteed!
Over the knee (OTK)
This is one of the most used spanking methods, classic, for a very good reason: it provides multiple points of contact between partners during spanking. Whatever tools you choose, make sure you put them at hand, it would be kind of hard to get up with your partner on your lap, to get your spanking implements...
On the living room couch
For many submissive people, the idea to be available and used by Dominator only for his pleasure, is a totally exciting thought! If that is the case for you, give it a try: when your partner watches a movie on tv, lie down and lean over his knees and tell him to make a pause and give you a few spanks whenever you want...
It is the most expensive option but it can bring a spanking session to the next level: not only is such a piece of furniture, designed specifically for spanking, exciting in itself, but the main advantage is that it positions the body to be most comfortable for spanking, both for the person who receives and for the easy access of the person offering the spanking. Spanking benches are adjustable depending on the size and type of the user's body, but also offer points for the restrictions of the movements of the person receiving the spanking. Positions on the spanking bench are favorable also for sex. Those skilled in the art of wood, can make their own bench, others can ask in the BDSM community of which they belong, where to buy such a piece of furniture.
Change your mood
What is the usual feeling about starting a spanking session? Is it gloomy? In the mood for a play? Being a little more concerned with making changes in spanking sessions, changing the feeling you are approaching the session can bring a new experience. Here are some good reasons for spanking:
This motivation for spanking is the preferred one and can be extraordinary: with each blow the excitement can grow more and more. With this reason for spanking, what is less pleasant as a spanking place will be bypassed by the dominant person and will give priority to the most pleasant ones, such as buttocks in their most exciting area, where merging with the thighs, in their inner part.
If that was the negotiation, spanking can be considered a form of foreplay, interrupted for a manual and oral stimulation, resumed after. Lighter, sensual strokes are more exciting than intense, stronger ones.
At the other pole of the spanking reasons, it is the one for punishment.
There are people for whom this kind of spanking is a hard limit, but for others, the thought of getting forgiveness for the mistakes they have made and thus being able to move on with a clear conscience is truly impressive.
Before you engage in any punishment spanking discuss it in detail with your playing partner. This type of spanking must be well controlled by the Dominator or the partner performing the spanking: if he is angry at the submissive or annoyed, the spanking should be postponed until he calms down. Anger should not accompany any spanking session.
Of all types of spanking, the punishment requires necessarily aftercare. Since the purpose of the spanking session was not the pleasure of the slave, in the end it is needed a time of reconnection between partners and forgiveness. This time may include caresses and declarations of love. Never leave a punishment spanking without having this reconnection time, always the latest memory of the partener, after a session, have to be positive. Make sure every time that each participant consents to the punishment spanking and is interested in this type of spanking.
A playful reinterpretation of punishment spanking is the funishment which is punishment for mistakes, but with an erotic twist. In this case, the punishment of the submissive includes fun, play, sexual arousal. Punishments are, this time, for made-up mistakes for fun, or minor, such as wearing inappropriate underwear, using the wrong perfume...
Unlike real punishment, spanking funishment pursues sexual arousal, being in fact a form of spanking of arousal, but with a punishing role play, in order to increase the intensity of sexual arousal.
Slightly different from the one for sexual arousal, spanking for the purpose of sensation requires you to have in mind how each blow feels: if some of these blows will create arousal, in this variant it is aimed in particular to obtain as many different sensations as possible. It will be slow, sensual and focused on touches.
In addition to using spanking instruments as designed, consider using them in different ways, trying with the edges or the tip of a paddle, or gently hitting your submissive's thighs with a whip or a suede paddle.
Consider alternating the use of spanking tools with existing items in the house too. As a Dominator, remember that the goal is to produce to your submissive the most pleasant and varied sensations.
Try a spanking session, with all the courage, you will discover great sensations!
We hope this guide has put on fire your imagination and creativity! Save these ideas for the next time you want to combine spanking methods. Because we know you will.